- Peter D. Bouloukos
10 Traits of a Good Person
1. They are honest in relationships.
Relationships can put an amazing stress on a person, especially when things are going wrong. This person understands all trust first requires trustworthiness. They demonstrate trustworthiness and this defines a safe foundation for trust. It works in both business and life, everything revolves and evolves around trust. Now, a nice person may try to stay in a relationship for too long, attempting to force something that isn’t there often going through the motions. But a truly good person will be honest and move it forward when things are going well and end it when the time comes. It’s difficult, if not impossible, to live up to lofty potential when a personal relationship is dragging you down. Be honest about how you feel and stay loyal while committed and as a good friend when things are over.
2. They compliment others when deserved.
Good people understand others need praise. Every single human being on the planet wants to be valued and appreciated. Complimenting is not only a good thing to do, but it signals to others you are excited for their unique victories. A truly good person will compliment when deserved and offer constructive criticism in a safe manner when warranted. After all, true friends and associates should not always sing the same exact song and if this happens something is truly wrong. 3. Kindness A good person doesn’t have to like everyone, but they are at least kind. They can often easily see a persons unique talents and potential seeing past the present making it easier to support, serve and authentically be kind to anyone. They are also wired to help people to see something within themselves giving spotlight to potential and strength rather than dwelling on weakness. Furthermore, we are constituted so simple acts of kindness, such as giving to charity or expressing gratitude, have a positive effect on our long-term moods and health. The key to the happy life, it seems, is the good life: a life with sustained relationships, challenging work, and connections to community and friends.
Good people are polite. They show respect and mind their manners. It’s not to be a showoff or to seem better; they just truly respect individuals and want to treat them how they want to be treated. After all, politeness is to all human beings as warmth is to wax on a sports car.
Giving without need of return, reward, recognition or a scorecard. Selfless people understand what’s good for them may not always be the best for others. They don’t have to cater exclusively to others; rather, they understand and take into consideration how a decision or course of action might affect another human being. These people usually communicate intent well.
6. They go the extra mile.
A truly good person makes sure the task gets done and always goes the extra mile whenever possible. Whether it’s staying to help clean up after an event or spending their own time ensuring things get done properly, a good person understands the importance of finishing what they start. When is the last time an old or new friend sent you an unexpected gift or a card just to see how you are doing? In the workplace, have you ever been next to a leader who is staying late to get the job done and two or more people are at his side. It's a good feeling in my experience and refreshing to be around people who authentically care. 7. Yes or No A good person will never say "maybe" as an answer or "almost" as an excuse. A good friend will arrive early and often stay late when they can. No matter what, a person who is true at heart will say "yes" and mean it. The same person may have to issue a "no" and don't take offense, it's simply that they can not commit to a yes perhaps because something else requires their attention and time.
8. They are kind to loved ones.
Sometimes you can be great to others but treat the ones who love you the most the worst. A truly good person doesn’t take out their problems on loved ones and is as pleasant at home as in the public eye. They use the word "love" amongst friends and mean it. They offer help and an open ear to old friends, new ones as well as family. This is the person who will give you a hug when you need it most and often don't know you need it.
9. They make the best in all situations good or bad.
In every situation, there are positives and negatives. A truly good person will adopt the positive outlook and champion a smile from the group even in the toughest of challenges. That’s not to say they don’t take the negatives; rather, they find ways to improve and build strength making any weakness irrelevant and perhaps funny.
10. They don’t take things for granted.
Being a truly good person is an ongoing pursuit. They understand what they have accomplished in the past doesn’t ensure results in the future. They will encourage and inspire the best they can all around them, but also know life requires on-going learning and self-development. These people are usually self-motivated and if you follow them you may learn something more about yourself. They are often humble and easy to be around.